Holly Willoughby breaks down in tears as This Morning co-star Eva Speakman reveals her harrowing domestic abuse story
- This Morning life coach Eva Speakman told her harrowing domestic abuse story on Wednesday
- Holly Willoughby broke down in tears when Eva, 50, revealed her ex-partner headbutted her three times
- The therapist ended up in hospital thinking she had brain damage
- The final straw was when her former partner broke her dad's nose
- Eva appeared on the show with her husband Nik to speak about domestic violence
- Holly, 38, said: 'Well done, you are so brave. I am full of admiration for you'
Holly Willoughby broke down on This Morning on Wednesday as Eva Speakman told how she was hospitalised at the hands of a violent ex-partner.
The television presenter, 38, fought back tears as life coach Eva, 50, detailed a particularly harrowing occasion when she feared she had brain damage after being head-butted three times during her domestic violence ordeal.
An emotional Eva - who features regularly on the ITV1 daytime show alongside husband Nik - told Holly and her co-host Phillip Schofield: 'I remember my car window being smashed, the glass fell onto me, I had to drive to get away from that.
Emotional: Holly Willoughby broke down on This Morning on Wednesday as Eva Speakman told her harrowing domestic abuse story
'It was as I see it now, most definitely grooming there are gifts, validations of being loved, having been bullied at school and having incredibly low self-esteem...
'I had become somewhat desensitised to the verbal abuse, in that beginning when you are showered with love you are so invested and give so much trust, that is a form of grooming. After a few months passed, it's the little things that have been said.'
The traumatised star said: 'It progressed for me to feel I was stupid, things I said were stupid, I shouldn't be speaking to certain people, a lot of control didn’t realise it was at the time, i just felt I had lost me..
'I didn’t know who I was. I would look for him for a reaction to speak to someone to look to see if it was ok I speak to this person.
Hard: The television presenter, 38, fought back tears as life coach Eva, who features regularly on the programme with husband Nik, detailed the violence she suffered at the hands of an ex
On why she was speaking out, Eva, who appeared on the show alongside her husband Nik - said: 'It hit a nerve maybe it’s time I spoke up to other woman.. it was however many years ago before I met Nik...
'I was in a relationship that consisted of abuse, both verbal and physical.'
Eva added things got so physical at one stage, she ended up in hospital after a night out with friends, thinking she had brain damage: 'I got head-butted three times, I remember hitting the deck.
'I hit the bar. I just remember excruciating pain I had never felt in my life, physically, so much pain physically. I was really frightened, I didn’t know what had happened. I said to my cousin, "Help me, take me to the hospital", so she did.'
In tears: An emotional Eva, 50, told Holly and Philip Schofield: 'I remember my car window being smashed, the glass fell onto me, I had to drive to get away from that'
Terrified: Eva added things got so psychical at one stage, she ended up in hospital after a night out with friends thinking she had brain damage
It was at this point Holly burst into tears and struggled to continued with the interview as Eva went on reveal her ex-boyfriend followed her to her parents' house and broke her father's nose.
Holly told Eva through tears: 'You’re the experts in this and yet you’re living with this trauma inside. Well done, you are so brave. I am full of admiration for you, I really am.'
Eva, who was on the show to promote her and Nik's new programme Dangerous Love, said: 'The issue is I didn't talk about it enough, I didn't discuss it, it is painful.
Shocked: Holly burst into tears and struggled to continued with the interview as Eva went on reveal her ex follower her to her parent's house and broke her dad's nose
'We will talk about it. I had very low self-esteem. This is how it happened to me. I now realise this and it's a great move for me and anyone watching - there is no shame associated.
'You are the victim not the perpetrator. It is not your fault. I’ve got nothing to be ashamed of embarrassed for.'
Nik and Eva live with their two children near Rochdale in Greater Manchester. On their website they list themselves as: 'The world's leading, inspiring, life change therapists'.
Hurt: Eva, who was on the show to promote her new programme Dangerous Love, said: 'The issue is I didn't talk about it enough, I didn't discuss it, it is painful'
Survivor: Eva concluded: 'You are the victim not the perpetrator. It is not your fault. I’ve got nothing to be ashamed of embarrassed for' (pictured with husband Nik. Her abuser was a former partner, who she did not name)
Their website biography reads: 'Nik and Eva Speakman have studied and worked together since 1992, both sharing an uncontainable passion to help people lead happier and less inhibited lives...
'Studying psychologists and in particular, the work of Ivan Pavlov, John Watson, Jean Piaget, Albert Bandura, Lev Vygotsky and B.F. Skinner, they acquired an intellectual curiosity for behaviourism and behavioural conditioning...
'After many remarkable breakthroughs, their studies transformed into the creation of their own behavioural change therapy known as ‘Schema Conditioning.’® They also created a further exceptional trauma-based therapy, ‘Visual Schema Displacement.’®
They have studied human behaviour together for over two decades and run their own therapy clinic as well as their TV work.
They have had a legion of celebrity clients, including Holly, Peter Andre, Kerry Katona, Kym Marsh, Katie Price and Jeremy Kyle.
In their quest to tackle anxiety disorders, the couple use schema conditioning psychotherapy.
Nik said: 'I can apply that to my life.' Even if it’s an entirely different problem, ultimately our therapy is the same... That’s what we want. There's no need for anyone to suffer. There is absolute hope for everyone'.
Her love: Nik and Eva live with their two children near Rochdale in Greater Manchester. On their website they list themselves as: 'The world's leading, inspiring, life change therapists' (Nik and Eva pictured at Tuesday night's ITV Palooza)